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The first
paragraph of Dead and Gone, the new novel by Andrew Vachss,
reads like this:
You know what it takes to sit across the table from a man, listen
to him talk, look into his eyes ... and then blow his brains
all over the wallpaper?
Nothing.
And the more of that you have, the easier it is.
This sentiment belongs to Burke, ex-con and Vachss' protagonist
of twelve novels. Burke is a career criminal who moonlights
as an investigator. He operates underground, deep below the
radar of the 'legitimate' world. Touring the underside of New
York City with Burke is like having your blindfold torn off
and realizing that you are in Hell, surrounded by pimps, junkies,
pedophiles, and killers. Burke knows his turf well. So does
Vachss.
Tragically, these fictional accounts don't contain a great deal
of fiction. Vachss, an attorney who represents children exclusively,
didn't so much create Burke, as build him from parts discovered
in a very real, very endless junkyard of human suffering. Burke
is the quintessential abused child. He is paranoid, hyper-vigilant
and capable of explosive violence. The only human bonding he
is capable of is the very conditional love he has for his family
of choice, a group of seemingly mismatched outcasts who, like
Burke, were raised by the state and by the streets. Vachss knows
his clients well.
Vachss has been a federal investigator in sexually transmitted
diseases and a warden in a maximum-security prison for violent
youth. For decades he has represented children against their
abusers, in courtrooms, on lecture circuits, in the media and
in his fiction. The novels, though gripping and suspenseful,
are not written purely to entertain you while you are waiting
for the bus. They are written to enrage you, to infuriate you,
to engage you in a war against the ultimate human injustice.
Anger is the fuel that keeps the Vachss machine churning. If
your own clinical diagnosis of a child molester is evil, rotten
son-of-a-bitch, then Vachss is your man. His ability to temper
this anger with logic and compassion is something to be aspired
to for anyone fighting against the injustices they deplore.
Andrew Vachss is an effective man.
MR: How do you define the term "child abuse"?
Andrew Vachss: I don't even like the term. It's too generic.
So what I do is break "child abuse" into three broad
categories. The first one and the largest one is some form of
inadequacy. People who don't know how to be parents. Maybe they
were raised with a slap in the mouth every time they did something
wrong. They think they turned out fine and they want their kids
to be even better and they use the same method. Maybe they think
telling their kids "you're bad", "you're dumb",
"you're ugly", "you're stupid" is motivation.
Maybe they don't understand basic fundamentals about how their
child needs to bond with them. Maybe they're impaired by drugs.
Maybe they're impaired by alcohol. Maybe they're impaired, as
people certainly are, by poverty.
MR: And these are people who can become
good parents?
AV: Exactly right. In the broad category we're on, the most
important characteristic of all of them is that these are people
tremendously amenable to what citizens call rehabilitation,
okay? We get an enormous bang to the buck working with such
folks, and overwhelmingly the answer is yes.
The second category is people who are crazy and I mean clinically
insane. I don't mean some 'Oprah' version of crazy, people who
howl at the moon. People whose reality testing is impaired,
people who are deluded, people who are compelled, can they be
[rehabilitated]? The answer is some yes, some no. It depends
on the disorder. We have not been successful getting paranoid
schizophrenics to parent safely. We've been very successful
with obsessive-compulsives.
MR Why?
AV: Because medication seems to have a real impact on such people
without costing them what it cost others. The third category
is where I part company with social workers and that's people
who are evil, people who hurt children for their own pleasure
and/or their own profit. And the answer to "can anything
be done with them?" is no.
MR: Period.
AV: Period. That's right. Their conduct is volitional. It's
not ignorant. It's not insane. It's a choice. Can you alter
their choices? No, you really can't. You can respond to their
choices. But you're not going to change the way they choose
to access children.
MR: Right. Because they like what they
do and they're going to do it.
AV: That's right, they like what they do. You can deter them.
You can incapacitate them. But you can't alter them.
MR: Of the ways in which people hurt children, physically, sexually
and emotionally, which do you consider the most damaging?
AV: I don't like [to say] most damaging, but in terms of long-term
effect on the personality of the individual, my best surmise
would be emotional abuse. It seems to scar the deepest, it seems
to affect one's self perception the most, and it is inarguable
that among major predators we will see emotional abuse, failure
to bond, pervasive neglect, more than we will see any other
type of abuse.
MR: Well let's talk about predators. How
do predators choose their prey? Can they spot an unloved, unbonded
child?
AV: The answer to your second question is absolutely yes. At
least the more highly evolved predators, the more successful
predators. Because camouflage is their major weapon yet they
can't invest in moving on children without some high probability
of success because the whole engagement process is long. They're
going to invest months, minimum.
MR: So quite often it's parents, teachers,
neighbors ...
AV: Of course. They're already in. They're already inside the
circle of trust. That's exactly right. It's relatively rare
though it certainly happens, it's relatively rare for the guy
in the ski mask in the van to jump out, grab the kid and take
off. I'm not saying that's not a danger. I'm not saying we shouldn't
be aware of it and be able to respond to it. But most kids who
are in danger in this country are in danger inside the circle
of trust, not outside.
MR: Do you think that a human being raised,
never having bonded with a family will ever be able to bond
or relate comfortably with others?
AV: It depends on whether they can get it from some other place.
That's probably the single greatest determinant of how their
life is going to be, if they can get what they didn't get from
their biological family elsewhere. If they cannot they generally
spend the rest of their lives seeking it. Some seek it to their
own pain. They're constantly being used and abused by others.
Some seek it out of the pain of others.
MR: Well then, let's talk about Burke for a moment. He has chosen
a family and they have chosen him. In fact they've all chosen
each other. But Burke still lives in a constant state of fear
and distrust.
AV: Yes. But not fear of his family and not distrust of his
family. But of the world as he perceives it, sure.
MR: And do you think it will always be that way for him?
AV: For him yes, no question. For others, you know, they take
sort of steps. [For example:] I learn to trust you, so okay
maybe not all people are bad. I might expand that, I might not.
It really depends on the experiences I have after I get past
that first hurdle.
MR: So it's totally individualized.
AV: I think it's very, very individualized.
MR: Let's stay on Burke. He and his crew
commit acts of extreme violence against their enemies but not
randomly or without deliberation. So what is the critical point
at which they decide to inflict damage?
AV: They are human organisms. So if given the opportunity to
choose from a menu of which violence is one option, they might
choose that, they might not. Under stress the menu doesn't pop
up. Just your reactions pop up.
MR: Is this impulsive? They don't seem
like an impulsive group.
AV: It's not impulsive. It's reactive. So they're not an impulsive
group. They prefer to operate off of a professional criminal
mentality. There are times when those options don't exist, okay?
So if you're in prison for example, there are a lot of different
places but none of them are called Switzerland, you know? There
is no neutral territory you can retreat to. And so there are
situations where you don't have time to think it through and
you are not given the opportunity to think it through. And in
a self-defense mode you can be very, very violent. Sometimes
self-defense is preemptive. In other words, if I think you are
going to
hurt me, why would I wait?
It's not impulsive in the sense that they are giving in to an
urge, okay? If somebody is shooting at you the best option is
to leave if you can, right? But it's happening. You can't just
sit there, "can I leave? What are the options?" Your
instinct is ...
MR: To shoot first.
AV: Sure, if you can, but certainly to shoot back. It may not
in retrospect have been your best play. To some extent your
adrenaline takes over, your emotions take over and fear takes
over. People attack more out of fear than any single thing I
can think of.
(In the novels, when Burke reaches a point at which it is too
difficult to solve a set of problems with his conscious mind,
he will occasionally focus his eyes on a small red dot. He then
breathes rhythmically and concentrates on the dot until it grows
outside his field of vision and its edges disappear. In this
place he is sometimes able to access new solutions.)
MR: Next question. Do you have a red dot
on a wall in your house?
AV: On a mirror.
MR: On a mirror.
AV: Yeah, not on a wall. It won't work on a wall.
MR: Do you use it?
AV: I have.
MR: How often?
AV: When necessary, because it's not a ritual. If you're looking
for answers, and you know a particular path that works, you
go down that path when you're looking for answers. It's not
a habit.
MR: What kind of answers can you find there
that you can't find other places?
AV: Any answers that require you to step away from your emotions.
Your emotions get in the way of your thinking.
Everybody's emotions get in the way of their thinking. When
you want to look at something without any emotional content
at all, that's when you would go there. When you're so pounded
by other forces that if you try and concentrate they impinge,
then you want to get away from them.
MR: Is this something you've been able
to do for a long time?
AV: For a very, very long time. But I'm not a kid.
MR: Was it shown to you or did you teach yourself?
AV: No, I actually learned it I guess the way most people do,
by accident. You concentrate on something so hard that the next
thing you know hours have gone by and yet you've got answers
to what you were looking for. It's just going to another place.
A nice word for it is dissociation. For people who can control
it there are many benefits to it. There are people who can't
control it, who dissociate not of their own free will.
MR: Let's talk about what happens to kids
after they are removed from their abusive homes. What's wrong
with the foster care system and why do kids rot in group homes?
AV: What's wrong with the foster care system is that we haven't
professionalized foster care. So we see it as a warehouse, not
as part of the continuing care given to children. So foster
parents are paid simply to house and feed children. Not to participate
in their healing. Not to help give them tools.
MR: And they're not trained to do it.
AV: If they were trained, they would not accept the [small amount
of] money that they're given. It should be a profession. It
should be another kind of social work. And we should have professionalized
it many years ago.
MR: Well it's somewhat professionalized
in group homes that exist where the objective is to act as an
attachment model and teach these kids to function safely and
comfortably as part of a family.
AV: If you could do that you've probably got your hand on the
mystery of life.
MR: The magic button.
AV: Absolutely. I mean, so-called attachment disorders are present
in every kind of sociopath you could want to see. Clearly if
they could bond, if they did have a strong sense of empathy,
they couldn't do what they do.
MR: In California more and more cases are
ending up in reunification and more therapy is geared towards
forgiveness. Are these trends related, and are there financial
factors at work here?
AV: Look. Nobody wants to pay for legal services to a non-voting
constituency. Nobody wants to pay for any services to a non-voting
constituency. And the parents, our theoretical adversaries here,
are a voting constituency. A child is never going to vote.
MR: So, because foster care is a service
that requires financial resources, we teach these kids to forgive
and send them back to their abusive homes.
AV: Sure.
MR: Is this the case everywhere?
AV: No. Actually reunification has come in disfavor under the
people who were so strong on it for many, many years. I'm talking
about social scientists, not independent advocates with an ax
to grind. Something I said many, many years ago that's really
starting to penetrate is that the word 'family' should be defined
operationally, not biologically. Family reunification is based
on biology, not operation; the entitlement is by blood, not
by performance. So in my opinion, when you remove a child from
parents there should be a discrete period. A year, eighteen
months. If you can't return then you're terminated. And that's
the reason kids are in foster care, because neither decision
is made. Kids can't be returned and they don't terminate parental
rights.
MR: So then how do we attack the problem
of parents who repeatedly violate the conditions of their reunification
and visitation privileges, and a system that affords them too
many chances?
AV: This is where you need the third party representation. If
the only parties in the game are the attorneys for the parents
and the attorneys for the agencies, this situation you've described
is going to be chronic. If the third party representing the
child is then forcing the state to move forward on termination,
on the grounds that they haven't met the terms and conditions,
you get much accelerated results. Both ways you get acceleration.
You get termination faster, but you also get parents saying
'okay, now I get it, there really is a gun to my head'. So the
third party representation is the key to that.
MR: Does this happen a lot?
AV: In New York state, in every case, by law.
MR: How many states are like New York?
AV: Not many. But most states have a provision by which it could
happen. So my understanding is, in California the law is that
a kid will be represented in an abuse/neglect case. I don't
know if the representation continues, as it should, post-adjudication.
Which is what we're talking about.
MR: Considering how inadequate our legal,
residential, and therapeutic treatment of children can be, are
we really doing kids any favors by putting them in the system?
AV: The answer is, I don't have a crystal ball. And you can
easily prove with actual cases, many instances where children
were removed from homes that were abusive and neglectful, say,
to Level 4, and ended up in situations abusive and neglectful,
say, to Level 8. You can actually prove that. You could equally
prove that kids have been taken out of abusive homes and as
a result their lives have been vastly improved. So I don't think
the answer lies in saying, 'is X worse than Y?' The answer really
lies in, 'how can Y be made better to the point where that's
not a question anymore?' You might as well say to me, 'if somebody
gets hit by a car in an intersection, am I really doing them
a favor by taking them to the hospital, because after all, doctors
commit malpractice?'
MR: Since you mentioned hospitals, please help me with this.
When a child is hit by a car and suffers physical damage, you
call 911 and a team of well equipped, trained professionals
is on the scene in minutes to deal with the situation. But when
a child is in pain caused by emotional damage, it can take dozens
of calls and several weeks to get any response at all.
AV: We don't have parallel service delivery systems. I mean,
there's no way for me to argue with what you're saying. You
are a hundred percent correct. But it comes down to the same
thing. Our reasons for critiquing the system ... it's pointless.
To analyze the system and point out what's wrong with it, without
the power to alter it, is masturbatory. The whole concept behind
analysis is the concept behind consciousness-raising. Which
is, if I show you that something is terrible, you will do something
about it. That's not reality. Reality is, it's about power.
It's not about education, and knowledge is not power. People
think it is because they like comic book cliches. Truth is,
if I see a homeless guy on the street and I say, 'all right,
here's a road map to Detroit', he still hasn't got bus fare.
So what's the knowledge?
MR: He doesn't have the power to get there.
AV: Right, so to criticize the system ... no argument. You're
right. But, I wouldn't waste thirty seconds of my life arguing
that the 911-response model of professionalism and instantaneousness
and goal orientation is exactly the model that we should have
in child protective services. Unless you can show me how pressure
can be placed to achieve that, I'm not interested.
MR: Well, changing the system takes focus,
and people are concerned about poverty, the environment, crime,
drug abuse, famine ... the list goes on and on. In your opinion,
will these problems be solved eventually if people are willing
to focus their efforts on dealing with child abuse first?
AV: Truthfully?
MR: Yeah.
AV: Hell yes. Hell yes. You know, you're asking damaged, impaired
people ... Let me give you an example. I'm always asked to be
on television shows, like, endlessly. And the shows are always
the same thing, which is: bring some of the kids you represent;
which I would never do. And the argument I get is; well look
at all the good they could do for other kids. And I say, nobody
did them any good. Why should they, now, their whole lives they've
been suffering, why should they be in a position where they're
going to say, 'oh, what I really care about is other kids before
myself'. So all the people who are concerned about trees or
cigarette smoking or any of the things that bother them, the
constituency that would be their natural ally, right now is
being impaired and abused. The quality of their lives is being
so squeezed, that when they get old enough they're not ever
going to be able to focus on these larger concerns. The truth
is if we could intervene early and strongly we'd have the best
crime prevention program in the country.
Everybody cares about crime. Unless you think criminals are
some biogenetic accident, then they have to have a genesis.
If you accept that their genesis is their upbringing, logically
a front-end investment would make perfect sense. But in a generation
that, you know, if something takes too long to download, they
don't want to play. Never mind investing in something that's
going to take a couple of generations to produce a result.
MR: Of course politicians don't want that
either.
AV: Well, no politician wants it because they can't run for
reelection ...
MR: They can't take credit for it.
AV: Yeah. It's not going to happen. But that doesn't mean that
it can't be done. It's just that people have to be willing to
do it. Hey, look, I'm not one to say if you're an activist for
civil rights, that child abuse is more important than fighting
racism.
MR: No. But it does seem like the first
step to solving any of these problems.
AV: Of course it does, because where do you think you get a
Klansman or a skinhead? From a warm, loving and protective home?
Logically your point is completely correct; selling it is another
thing. I've been in the business of trying to sell it for many,
many years. And while I think there has been some progress,
it's not going to happen in my lifetime. There's been changes,
there's been more dialogue, there's been more discussion, there's
been more cases won, there's been more representation of children.
Systems have altered incrementally. But at the rate we're going,
even if you assume we keep the upper hand, that we produce more
protected children than beasts ... hundreds of years before
we ever get level.
MR: So you believe that every person, that
each of us specifically reap the negative impact of people who
prey on children?
AV: Absolutely. Absolutely. And all we have to do is get that
to become the conventional wisdom. Because every yuppie will
tell you that the bad thing about drunk driving is that it increases
the insurance rates. I'll settle for that. I don't need a whole
lot of morality. Just use the same mentality and say that a
failure to protect children costs us all. Never mind what it
costs them, just costs us. On that pure self interest basis,
if people would get that, swallow that, internalize that, live
that, I'll be a happy man. Because I'll have a religious faith
in self-interest. Perceived self-interest, not actual self-interest.
Self-interest moves people to do things. It's a question of
making them see it. I can make any intelligent person see the
connection between today's victim and tomorrow's predator. I
can make any intelligent person see that an investment in child
protective services actually protects them.
MR: Because it's true.
AV: Because it's true. But you have to get past spin. You have
to get past distortion. You have to get past the self-interest
of your adversaries.
MR: What's the difference between perceived
self-interest and actual self-interest?
AV: Well the actual self-interest of every human being on this
planet is to protect children. They don't act on it. Their perception
of their self-interest is that it doesn't lie in protecting
children. People act off their perceived self-interest every
time. In fact, when a person acts against their perceived self-interest
we call them clinically insane.
MR: Are they?
AV: That's pretty much the definition of clinical insanity.
I don't mean making a bad choice. You know that fire is bad
for you, duh. You put your hand in a fire you get burned, right?
It's the same 'duh' to let children be abused. Who do you think
reaps the whirlwind? It's almost never the offenders. That's
why we're so excited when a kid who was abused kills his parents,
because it's so rare. When that abused kid goes and kills some
citizen we say, 'well, he's an armed robber', 'he's a mugger'
...
MR: As though he didn't come from anywhere.
AV: Right. Exactly. But we're the ones who reap that legacy,
not the offenders.
MR: How able are you to spot an abused
kid when you meet them as an adult?
AV: Well, you can spot the unbonded person by their conduct.
That's it, the unbonded person. I can't spot the abused person
because there are people who commit crimes for reasons that
have nothing to do with sociology. People who steal because
they have inadequate job skills. I'm not saying it's right for
them to steal. But there are people who if they had job skills
they wouldn't steal. There are people who hurt people because
they like to do it. Then I'm guaranteeing you we've got one
of ours. You see? When it's predatory for pleasure crime, I
guarantee you've got one of ours.
MR: You've said in the past that with 150 million dollars we
could revolutionize child protection in this country. How would
we go about that and whose hands would we put that money into?
AV: Probably what I would do ... and that's a small amount of
money ... you would have to put it in an absolutely targeted
area. Change that system entirely and then rely on the fall-out.
So in other words, 150 million dollars invested. Small area,
total reform, twenty year measurements, 150 million dollars
in a town that I would ruthlessly divide in half.
MR: What do you mean?
AV: I mean I'd take a damn meat cleaver and go right down the
middle. So that I could say, [over] here we did full press intensive
services, and [over] there we did what we usually do.
Twenty years later ... a lot more [over] there in prison, a
lot more [over] there, dope fiends, a lot more [over] there,
suicides ...
MR: And lots more over here are people.
AV: Yeah. You see? That kind of graphic demonstration ... and
150 million dollars is a small sum, but I think that would be
enough to prove it. But I could prove it only if given that
opportunity. I could prove it to a rational, logical person,
but they've got to give me a couple of hours of their time.
If I'm going to prove it with slogans, the kind of stuff you
could put in USA Today, then I've got to have the 150 million.
MR: Do you ever see this happening?
AV: 150 Million dollars is not a lot of money. You can't even
buy a professional baseball team for that, right? Do I see it
happening? Yeah. Sooner or later I think the laboratory has
got to be opened. I really do. Because to me, see, I'm ready
to be challenged. Give me the measurable objectives. I've proved
to people ... I said I could run a maximum-security prison for
violent youth without any rape, without any stabbing, and without
any suicide.
MR: How long did you do that for?
AV: Approximately a year.
MR: What were the numbers like before you went in?
AV: Before I went in, a staff member in the same institution
had been sexually assaulted. To call it a jungle would be a
compliment.
MR: No rape, no stabbing and no suicide.
AV: Yeah.
MR: And it stayed that way for a year.
AV: Yep.
MR: How old were the kids in this institution?
AV: The truth is that some of them were like, nineteen. We had
a fourteen-year-old. The average kid was sixteen and a half
and had committed a homicide. That was the typical kid. And
this wasn't a detention facility. It was a maximum-security
prison, the garbage can of the state. To get in here you had
to flunk every other institution with your institutional behavior.
Never mind your original crime. I mean, we were dealing with
human beings that had been written off completely and getting
a result from them that was shocking. We had achieved some remarkable
things.
MR: In addition to running that prison,
you've also been an investigator. I've heard you say that child
abuse cases aren't investigated the way that they should be.
What constitutes a proper investigation?
AV: A proper investigation is an objective, chips fall where
they may, search for the truth; conducted by skillful people
with the proper tools and the proper supervision. And none of
that applies to Child Protective Services. None of that. I mean,
basic interviewing skills take a long time to learn. When I
was an investigator for the feds, the United States Public Health
Service, you had to pass a test. You went through the whole
academy, but I don't care how well you scored on the damn written
crap, and in the face-to-faces, what they did was- My test was
in a public hospital on the south side of Chicago. [Interview
the] next person in the door that had syphilis. Blind. Closed
circuit TV running. I had to get that person to disclose their
sexual contacts. Fail? You're out.
MR: That was it? You get one shot?
AV: Oh yeah. I mean, you could go back in the class and start
over. Fail a couple of times and you're history. You only get
the one shot. And I will not forget mine to this day because
I got a woman who was a member of the Nation of Islam who actually
greeted me with, Hello Mr. Devil. And we started
from there.
MR: So why don't people who work with kids
and their abusers receive this kind of training, or have to
pass a test before they work?
AV: Because it costs too much money. [Sarcastically] This was
about something serious. This was about sexually transmitted
diseases. This wasn't about kids. Adults can get that. Adults
were the entire focus.
MR: Would it work to train caseworkers,
group home staff or foster parents this way, and use the same
kind of test?
AV: Well, first of all it would be a much more complicated test
because we had to learn to interview men and women, heterosexuals
and homosexuals, black people and white people, all of that.
We were interviewing them all off the exact same set of questions.
MR: You knew what the problem was.
AV: We knew what the problem was. They had the disease. There's
no mystery here, right? The question is where did they get it?
And we knew the period within which they must have gotten it
because the duration of the disease is such; if someone had
early, primary, secondary syphilis, we were looking at a ninety-day
to six-month window. That's all, no more. So we had a lot of
information. Now we're going to go interview a child. A kid
maybe two and a half years old, you know, barely verbal. A kid
maybe fourteen, and a sophisticated liar. It's very, very different.
So it would be a lot more training, a lot more supervision,
and the prob lem would be that when you got the people who were
very good at it keeping them.
MR: Because they're not getting paid enough?
AV: Sure, they're not getting paid enough. They're not getting
respected enough. And it's the nature of government that you
always promote somebody outside their skills. So you could have
an excellent field person, a fine investigator and interviewer,
and that person is going to end up being what?
MR: Administrator.
AV: Sure. Now, the cops in New York have a technique called
getting the money. In order to protect that from happening with
their most experienced field guys, they have a provision in
which they can pay them as if they took a desk job but leave
them out on the street.
MR: Pretty cool.
AV: Very slick. No question. But they don't have that for casework
yet.
MR: Right. The pyramid is still upside
down.
AV: Of course. But there is no law that says it has to be. If
you want to make a front-end investment, turn the pyramid upside
down. Put the money where it's supposed to be, you get a result.
Unless and until the resources are allocated, it's not going
to happen. Resources will get allocated when people perceive
it in their self-interest to pressure to get them done, not
before. So we chip away. We chip away. And we try to have every
campaign produce some tangible result. But there's not going
to be any high-fives at the end of this run for me, because
it's not going to get done while I'm still here.
MR: But is it working?
AV: In my mind I'm swimming, the way you swim at a horizon.
You get tired, eventually you drown. But there are other waves
coming behind, and more waves coming behind that.
MR: So you don't ever see yourself stopping?
AV: Nah. I could do what I do in a wheelchair. So, no, I don't
see why I would. And I don't actually have any other interests.
So this would be it.
MR: What about the Blues?
AV: Oh. That's a misstatement on my part, because I really do
have plenty of other interests. But none that I would be able
to spend my whole life doing exclusively. Yeah. You know, I
could get another racehorse someday. I've always wanted to breed
dogs. You know, my kind of dogs someday. I'll write more music
someday.
MR: Do you play an instrument?
AV: Nope.
MR: Words?
AV: Words. I write the words. Son [Seals] writes the music.
And I did it before with Doc and I'll probably do it my whole
life. But I have the musical talent of a rock, you know? But
none of that would consume me. I don't know. Things could change.
But I've been at it for so long I don't anticipate it.
MR: I want to ask you one more question.
AV: Sure.
MR: When you meet a child for the first
time how do you make them feel safe right off the bat?
AV: You know, that's really a good question. Children don't
always like me. In fact, a lot of them don't. But they always
seem to feel safe. If the kid is old enough that I can explain
the realities, it's easy enough to say what my job is and what's
not going to happen to them anymore, and be very clear about
that. If they're real little ones, I don't have any magic.
MR: No. Nobody does.
AV: Yes. People do. Not magic, but people do have a sense about
themselves, a chi that is very comforting to kids. I don't have
that.
MR: Some kids are just going to feel threatened.
AV: Some kids are so traumatized that everything scares them.
But I've never had a kid not feel safe after a while because
what I always do is promise things.
MR: And deliver.
AV: Yep. Until they see it. As long as you're consistent, as
long as you always keep your word, it's a new experience for
most kids in that situation and you can build trust.
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